You can succeed as an undiagnosed ADHDer…
This is the most persistent myth about ADHD. This is the myth that blocks so many from getting the help they need. This is why so many people end up diagnosed with things like “high functioning anxiety” and “high functioning depression”. I guarantee you anyone with those other diagnoses is not functioning as highly as those things make out.
ADHD allows some people to go undetected because they manage to have a good academic track record, they are more highly adaptable, and they had good support structures growing up.
They look fine to others from the outside, but inside their lives are falling apart.
They may have failed relationships, a messy house, the very act of ‘adulting’ seems completely impossible, their hygiene slips, they can’t manage – they end up extremely self-critical and brutal on themselves for the things that they fail to do successfully.
ADHDers come in different flavours, with different support, with different outcomes – but we are all ADHD.
There’s no mild, moderate or severe ADHD – IT’S ALWAYS SPICY but usually in ways that others cannot see. We are great at masking the fact that we are struggling because so often we have been gaslight into thinking that having struggles is not anyone else’s problem.
Suffering in silence is not an innate part of ADHD, but I can guarantee you nearly all of us have. Don’t deny people support who need it due to an area where they are exceeding your ableist expectations – dig deeper – make sure you see the person underneath.
Daily blog challenge
October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.
For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:
- Day 1: Introduction
- Day 2: What I love about being an ADHDer is…
- Day 3: My Identification/Discovery Story
- Day 4: Reactions to Identification
- Day 5: Hobby Graveyard
- Day 6: Supports and Appreciation
- Day 7: The ADHDer Community
- Day 8: Favourite ADHDer Blogs/Comics
- Day 9: Favourite ADHD Owned Business
- Day 10: Sensory Seeking/Aversion
- Day 11: Fidgets and Stims
- Day 12: Favourite ADHD Charity
- Day 13: Family
- Day 14: Order from Chaos
- Day 15: Everyone Should Know
- Day 16: Work/School
- Day 17: ADHD People I Admire
- Day 18: Someday…
- Day 19: I Love it When…
- Day 20: Communication Style
- Day 21: One thing other people don’t understand…
- Day 22: Dispel a myth
- Day 23: Can’t Live without…
- Day 24: ADHD Political Issue
- Day 25: Symbols
- Day 26: Favourite ADHD Book
- Day 27: Identity Language
- Day 28: Dealing with Boredom
- Day 29: Favourite Memes
- Day 30: Hyperfocus
- Day 31: Acceptance Means…