Chaos and Order (Weaver and Concluder)
A while ago I found a blog that perfectly describes my two different communication styles – Weaver and Concluder. I lapse between these depending on the context – but my preference is always to weave rather than conclude.
I traverse random nodes of information that are adjacent to the topic I am talking about in the strange and wonderful categories that my mind has created. A Dewey decimal system where categories have unsorted books that bleed into one another taking the conversation in unexpected tangents to unknown destinations.
Information in my mind is connected in webs of meaning, the weaver in my mind forever linking seemingly random data together as it tries to find more complete systems. Answers to life’s mysteries are found in my brain, but it takes a long time before I ever feel safe concluding – when it happens I enter into a euphoric state.
I didn’t talk till age three, then you couldn’t shut me up. Then I was conditioned out of talking. I masked who I was for a long time, I was scared to voice my opinions and gave authority over information to other people. I no longer do this. I love talking about my passions – I have many. I enjoy sharing information with other people.
I guess the thing I love most is communicating with other neurodivergent people, it’s always an adventure. It’s always a marvel of creation. Our conversation traverses so many subjects in such a small amount of time, and every time I come away rejuvenated by their ecstasy of their enthusiasm when talking about their interests.
Communication is so important to me – it’s all I ever want to do – reach other people, connect – help people find meaning, and allow them to see their strengths.
Daily blog challenge
October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.
For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

- Day 1: Introduction
- Day 2: What I love about being an ADHDer is…
- Day 3: My Identification/Discovery Story
- Day 4: Reactions to Identification
- Day 5: Hobby Graveyard
- Day 6: Supports and Appreciation
- Day 7: The ADHDer Community
- Day 8: Favourite ADHDer Blogs/Comics
- Day 9: Favourite ADHD Owned Business
- Day 10: Sensory Seeking/Aversion
- Day 11: Fidgets and Stims
- Day 12: Favourite ADHD Charity
- Day 13: Family
- Day 14: Order from Chaos
- Day 15: Everyone Should Know
- Day 16: Work/School
- Day 17: ADHD People I Admire
- Day 18: Someday…
- Day 19: I Love it When…
- Day 20: Communication Style
- Day 21: One thing other people don’t understand…
- Day 22: Dispel a myth
- Day 23: Can’t Live without…
- Day 24: ADHD Political Issue
- Day 25: Symbols
- Day 26: Favourite ADHD Book
- Day 27: Identity Language
- Day 28: Dealing with Boredom
- Day 29: Favourite Memes
- Day 30: Hyperfocus
- Day 31: Acceptance Means…
Reblogged this on Solitary 4 Tomorrow.
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