ADHD Acceptance Month – Communication Style

Chaos and Order (Weaver and Concluder)

A while ago I found a blog that perfectly describes my two different communication styles – Weaver and Concluder. I lapse between these depending on the context – but my preference is always to weave rather than conclude.

I traverse random nodes of information that are adjacent to the topic I am talking about in the strange and wonderful categories that my mind has created. A Dewey decimal system where categories have unsorted books that bleed into one another taking the conversation in unexpected tangents to unknown destinations.

Information in my mind is connected in webs of meaning, the weaver in my mind forever linking seemingly random data together as it tries to find more complete systems. Answers to life’s mysteries are found in my brain, but it takes a long time before I ever feel safe concluding – when it happens I enter into a euphoric state.

I didn’t talk till age three, then you couldn’t shut me up. Then I was conditioned out of talking. I masked who I was for a long time, I was scared to voice my opinions and gave authority over information to other people. I no longer do this. I love talking about my passions – I have many. I enjoy sharing information with other people.

I guess the thing I love most is communicating with other neurodivergent people, it’s always an adventure. It’s always a marvel of creation. Our conversation traverses so many subjects in such a small amount of time, and every time I come away rejuvenated by their ecstasy of their enthusiasm when talking about their interests.

Communication is so important to me – it’s all I ever want to do – reach other people, connect – help people find meaning, and allow them to see their strengths.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts: