My community
I try never to talk about numbers for people who follow me, as it causes a lot of rejection sensitivity, but I am blown away when I do look because I can’t believe it – if this ever becomes about fame or recognition then I will have truly lost my way – extrinsic motivation will destroy my authenticity.
I am terrified of my responsibility as my numbers grow, and I am always trying to make sure I follow my rules for social media that I created for myself – they get updated frequently as I make mistakes and learn from them.
I am able to talk because almost everyone has been supportive of me – I have made errors along the way, caused problems occasionally that I pledged never to do again, and always looked to improve each day on how I communicate to ensure that I cover as much as I can as my authentic self.
It’s been an awe inspiring thing to have a community around me who has supported me over time as I have tried to move toward living a life that matches more closely with the core of my person.
TW / suicide
A year ago I didn’t think I wanted to live – and that impulse was strong enough for me to act on. It’s one of my biggest regrets. I nearly didn’t make it. I had to rewrite the guidebook on how to live life after I discovered I was Autistic too.
The ADHD community backed me first – and from their support I have gone on to become an ADHD coach, and every day I get to help people become the best versions of themselves. Both offline and online.
I will always aim to do the best I can with the platform I have – and I am forever indebted to everyone who has clicked a like button, commented, or taken the time to correct me when I have erred.
My success is your success – the people in my life who believed in me, gave me the capacity to believe in myself. I hope I can return the favour for some of you too!
Thank you, from the deepest parts of my soul.
You created something beautiful in me that I hope to grow in others.
Daily blog challenge
October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.
For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

- Day 1: Introduction
- Day 2: What I love about being an ADHDer is…
- Day 3: My Identification/Discovery Story
- Day 4: Reactions to Identification
- Day 5: Hobby Graveyard
- Day 6: Supports and Appreciation
- Day 7: The ADHDer Community
- Day 8: Favourite ADHDer Blogs/Comics
- Day 9: Favourite ADHD Owned Business
- Day 10: Sensory Seeking/Aversion
- Day 11: Fidgets and Stims
- Day 12: Favourite ADHD Charity
- Day 13: Family
- Day 14: Order from Chaos
- Day 15: Everyone Should Know
- Day 16: Work/School
- Day 17: ADHD People I Admire
- Day 18: Someday…
- Day 19: I Love it When…
- Day 20: Communication Style
- Day 21: One thing other people don’t understand…
- Day 22: Dispel a myth
- Day 23: Can’t Live without…
- Day 24: ADHD Political Issue
- Day 25: Symbols
- Day 26: Favourite ADHD Book
- Day 27: Identity Language
- Day 28: Dealing with Boredom
- Day 29: Favourite Memes
- Day 30: Hyperfocus
- Day 31: Acceptance Means…