The artist for the above image is @Kayas_Kosmos!
Supports and Appreciation
My whole life has been constantly taping stuff together that seems to work for the myriad of negative traits from ADHD, Autism and OCD to survive.
I don’t have a lot of supports. I have my my wife, my cats, my Mum (who lives a house away and that’s a complicated relationship as with many undiagnosed Autistic children with their parents), and many neurodivergent Twitter friends.
The world’s most amazing person. I could never write enough that would do her justice. She’s been incredible from the day we met, our relationship founded on honest, mutual respect, no yelling – making every problem the person and the other person vs the problem, never attributing the problem as the person. We have an honestly rule – when one of us has an issue, we just discuss it openly, no yelling, no fighting. When one of us is feeling down, the other one picks up the slack around the house.
She’s kind, compassionate, passionate, enthusiastic, artistically gifted, extremely caring and patient. I try to show her I love her through actions rather than explicit words a lot of the time, and the first eight years of our relationship were hard for both of us, for varying reasons – mostly always out of our control.
In the photo above where they are all on top of me, I am in the middle of acute Autistic Burnout, I had broken my hand from hitting a wall. This was some of the darkest time for me, but they always had my back.
Cats have been important to me my whole life. I’ve been without them for maybe six years total in my life, and they were some of the hardest years. I’ve lost too many to count to old age. We love our animals and protect them. They are the world’s best companions, every one I’ve ever had, I shared a unique bond with. There’s always the sadness of knowing always that they won’t be in my life forever – something I rarely get to not know, stroking them with this knowledge.
She’s been there for me however she could – sometimes it wasn’t a good relationship. She’s loved me always, but unfortunately a lot of this road paved with good intentions did lead me straight through hell.
She’s worked tirelessly to ensure that I have stable housing, that I rarely went hungry as an adult trying to survive in an uncompromising world. That I knew I had somewhere to go back to, at times where my life fell apart.
I’ll love her always. She’s always wanted the best, sometimes it’s been the worst, but this is the paradox of raising an Autistic child when you don’t realise they are Autistic. You hurt them in unexpected ways – and you probably never meant to Mum, I know that too.
My Twitter Peer support network
Again this is a largely taped together solution. Depending on the day I might just need to see the Tweets of others going through hard stuff, on some days I need to reach out to a few people and talk.
It’s just a refuge. It’s a place for me to actually work through and process my traumatic life. It’s a place to offer support. I wouldn’t be here without it in all honesty. I am just disappointed it took me so long to find.
Thank you #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #ADHDAutism Twitter – I am glad to know you all.
Daily blog challenge
I will be writing every day on being Autistic for April using this list of prompts:
Alt-Text Format with links to other blogs – Autistic Acceptance Month – 30 Days of Acceptance and appreciation:
- Day 1 – Introduction
- Day 2 – What I love about being Autistic is…
- Day 3 – My diagnosis/discovery story
- Day 4 – Reactions to “coming out
- Day 5 – Special Interests
- Day 6 – Supports and Appreciation
- Day 7 – The Autistic Community
- Day 8 – Favourite Autistic Blog
- Day 9 – Favourite Autistic-owned Business
- Day 10 – Sensory Life
- Day 11 – Stims
- Day 12 – Favorite Autism-charity
- Day 13 – Family
- Day 14 – Routine
- Day 15 – Everyone should know…
- Day 16 – Work/School
- Day 17 – Accommodations
- Day 18 – Someday…
- Day 19 – I hate it when…
- Day 20 – Communication
- Day 21 – One thing other people don’t understand
- Day 22 – Dispel a myth
- Day 23 – Can’t live without…
- Day 24 – Political Issue
- Day 25 – Symbols!
- Day 26 – Favourite Autism book
- Day 27 – Identity Language
- Day 28 – Dealing with meltdowns
- Day 29 – Famous Autistics
- Day 30 – Acceptance means…