ADHD Acceptance Month – Someday

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Someday

Someday people will like they are ADHDers, and that will be the default position upon discovery.

Someday that discovery will come with the right support.

Someday teachers will understand that kids don’t want to act out, and that movement isn’t related to being disruptive but instead a way for ADHDers to regulate.

Someday ADHDers will realise that often the skills they need to manage their ADHD they’ve often had all along.

Someday ADHD will be valued in the workplace.

Someday…

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – ADHD People I Admire

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Those who accept everything about who they are…

I admire all ADHD people and those who understand what it’s like to live with the varied challenges that being an ADHDer brings.

BUT

I especially love the ones who have come to a solid understanding that this is something they cannot change, nor would they want to – these are the people who helped me accept myself.

All or nothing (dichotomous thinking) is quite common in the ADHDer population. This can lead to two extremes either a) relentless negativity, b) toxic positivity. ADHD exists on a scale between these things, and moving toward the toxic positivity side of things without dictating that people should not struggle with ADHD and being toxically positive is the end of this particular spectrum that I admire.

The extreme positions both seek to invalidate people’s experience – and the focus on either isn’t conducive to actually helping people.

My life was fraught with bad choices, drug addiction, near constant abuse, medical misdiagnosis, and many more causes of trauma that ended up giving me Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

I used to be in the relentless negativity category personally, and it was a journey from this position to the one I occupy today – whenever I see these two positions posted about I get upset (in part because I see the past reflections of me and how much thinking about these two positions damaged my recovery).

Being relentlessly negative about being an ADHD person just made me suffer more internal abuse than I needed to – and the toxic positivity of the superpower narrative (especially during it’s early inception) that was about not having struggles probably kept me believing that my being an ADHDer was always going to be a negative thing – because I couldn’t get to the superpower part from a position of relentless negativity.

I am thankful and admire the people who occupy the middle areas of these extremes – because they helped me traverse the expectations of all or nothing positions that made me constantly swing between a false dichotomy.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Work/School

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“ADHD people are entrepreneurial”

One of the most common things I see on positive ADHD websites is the fact that ADHDers quite often start their own companies, and are therefore entrepreneurial in nature.

I feel like this is only telling half the story. The main reason a lot of us start our own companies (myself included) is that workplace accommodations for ADHD people do not exist – not in any realistic fashion.

I am a sprinter in the way I work, I have sporadic productivity – the only thing I can easily do consistently is Coach people – this is more about creating a human connection than a job, and it is incredibly satisfying at all times to do.

I worked really well in companies where I was allowed autonomy, but I am also pretty averse to being motivated by extrinsic motivations (eg more money, a better job title, the ability to buy more meaningless things). The second my job became about extrinsic motivation – I couldn’t really keep up the pace of work required.

I love working for myself now because I get to set my own deadlines and meet them – it took a while to actually restore trust in myself to be able to do this effectively. I have had to build a lot of systems that did not exist in order to maintain it.

I didn’t become an entrepreneur out of choice really, I did it out of necessity. When an ADHDer finds their niche, they can be incredibly ‘successful’. My niche is connection to others, and the work I do allows this.

One thing workplaces could easily do that would benefit all people – is make the workday shorter, and give people more autonomy over their work. The best company I ever worked for did this for me, and I wrote about that experience back in April for Autism Acceptance Month.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Everyone Should Know

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ADHD & Autism may share common aetiology

Recently a lot of studies have come out questioning whether these are two distinct diagnoses or actually a broad category with different dimensions.

Twin studies have highlighted recently just how common the co-occurrence of both ADHD and Autism seems to be – and it may be clinically looking at them has under estimated how close these are to each other. There’s been some other evidence in neuroscience too, but it’s a lot less replicable at this point.

The pattern of association across different types of relatives supports the existence of genetic overlap between clinically ascertained ASD and ADHD, suggesting that genomic studies might have underestimated this overlap.

The familial co-aggregation of ASD and ADHD: a register-based cohort study

We found evidence for dimension-specific phenotypic and aetiological overlap between ADHD and ASD traits in adults. Future studies investigating mechanisms underlying comorbidity between ADHD and ASD may benefit from exploring several symptom-dimensions, rather than considering only broad diagnostic categories.

Genetic and environmental contribution to the overlap between ADHD and ASD trait dimensions in young adults: a twin study

The majority (11 out of 14 studies) of available twin studies categorized as neurodevelopmental reported estimates between ADHD and ASD symptoms, with estimates ranging from rg = .22 to .88. For the meta-analysis, … a forest plot of 11 independent studies with a pooled estimate of .59 (CI 0.49–0.69), p < .0001, with Q (19) = 12,119.52, p < .0001, I2 = 99.8.

Research Review: The strength of the genetic overlap between ADHD and other psychiatric symptoms – a systematic review and meta-analysis

Why everyone should know this?

Autistic Burnout is the reason I talk about this a lot. I was diagnosed for ADHD in 2010, but until I figured out I was Autistic in 2020, I basically kept burning out for unknown reasons and had ever increasing anxiety and depression.

These side effects of unknowingly being Autistic without realising culminated in a detonation that I almost didn’t survive.

If you are a ‘highly-sensitive person’ who is also an ADHDer you may want to look into masked autism. The reason most of us don’t know we are Autistic also is due to the horrible stereotypes and bad science that exist around Autism. Almost everything written about Autistic people and taught in mainstream psychology courses is false and based on faulty premises and data interpretation by allistic (non-Autistic) people.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Order from Chaos

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A lifetime of hacking together solutions

I asked people if they thought they would benefit from knowing how I manage a lot of issues I have so I will endeavour to answer or provide solutions I have found work (some of them only temporary) for common ADHD challenges based on the responses to this Tweet:

A lot of the solutions will be more fleshed out where I think it appropriate but I will also bullet point for techniques you can Google easily.


Developing Self-Compassion / Undoing Internalized Ableism

I’m going to suggest a lot of techniques but I think in order to truly create order from chaos, one of the most important steps, if not the most important step, is to love what is already there. In all it’s flawed glory. Hating parts of myself is something I did consistently for pretty much all of my life up until the last few years when I learned about internalized ableism.

This might sound ‘defeatist’ but it’s not been so much about overcoming every weakness I have, so much as leaning into the fact I have them, and then not wasting time hating myself that could have been spent on other things.

There are a couple of resources to challenge expectations that you have which are out of line with the reality of what is achievable. This blog is my go-to guide:

INTERNALIZED ABLEISM: HOW TO OVERCOME IT

Just recently Jessica McCabe (HowToADHD) put out this brilliant video on this same topic:


Perfectionism

I can’t explain how important it is to practice failure or not being good enough for your own standards. The method I used is from CBT and is one of the few things I absolutely recommend it’s called Exposure and Response Prevention. I used to be a massive perfectionist and I have all the learning disabilities that made my life hell to actually ever achieve perfection. I found one area of my life to allow myself to fail – tweets with errors in them – and from that I realised that the world didn’t end if I failed a little. I just kept practicing not having things go right – because in my life they barely ever have.

I now embrace being a failure, I don’t run from it. I always aim to improve and do my best, but I don’t hold myself to unreachable standards. This in combination with undoing ableism are my biggest tips. Perfectionism sabotages every part of your life if it gets a hold, it prevents you from experiencing joy when you need to.

Burnout

Recovery from burnout with either being ADHD or Autistic unfortunately requires a few things:

  • Commitment to resting whenever possible
  • Enlisting outside help as much as you can

If you absolutely can’t take time to rest there are a few things I do that I recommend:

  • stimulate my vagus nerve – one of the easiest ways to do this is breathing exercises. There’s a lot of science recently on the importance of breathing, and I am going to suggest it a lot – the reason I do this is because few things have helped me more than properly breathing when under extreme strain.
  • if you can handle the sensory element / don’t have fiscal or water constraints – a bath or long shower helps me – getting the motivation to do this can be hard, but putting on relaxing music or my favourite music, even a podcast in the right circumstances and spending time in water somehow helps me a lot with extreme fatigue
  • spend time in nature – there’s a lot of evidence for being somewhere surrounded by nature being good for relaxation. If you have trouble resting at home, a nice park, or beach, or any other greenspace can help to allow your body to unwind.
  • demask – find somewhere you can be yourself, however you need to be. Fidget, stim, flap, yell, cry, be angry. This will release stress and pent up energy – challenging internalized ableism is important to assist here.

Procrastination / Task Overload / Accountability

One thing I was told somewhere is that ‘procrastination is a pain avoidance defence’. It’s true been true for me. Procrastination can be for a number of different reasons. Identifying the root cause is sometimes extremely difficult alone – so having someone who can talk to you and ask you questions about anxieties, fears, blocks, feelings that are associated with this can help you become more adept at becoming a CSI: Procrastination expert. Here are the most common causes I had to work on:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Success
  • Lack of Interest
  • Starting Difficulties
  • Task Overload
  • No accountability

These all require different solutions:

Fear of Failure

A job that is done poorly is better than a job not done at all. One common technique I have now come to love from my time in Game Development is ‘Minimum Viable Product’. What this means in practice is that make the worst version that gets you over the line, and then build on that. I start always from a position now of I am going to fail and that is ok – which ties back into self-compassion development. In most cases I don’t fail, and I am happier now always with the result – leaning into my fear rather than running from it was the solution to me personally.

Fear of Success

This sounds odd, but some of us are terrified of things going right. Maybe you’ve just been told you did a great job at something – instantly your mind goes toward how it’s going to go wrong – this used to happen for me. I have to now ignore feedback while still needing it at times. There’s a lot of trial and error getting this right. Maybe you are scared of something you did in your past where if you are too successful you will get ‘cancelled’ for it because someone will bring it up. My philosophy – assume that will happen, I’d rather be accountable when it does – and there’s absolutely nothing I can do to control that – worrying won’t help. Again finding the root cause of these issues can take a lot of processing.

Lack of Interest

The hardest one to overcome. I use two main tools here. Anger about the task to get mad at it or finding a way to make it interesting to me. Sometimes that looks like mocking the task with a friend while we do it, other times listening to podcasts while cleaning, or outsourcing accountability by making it become a way to surprise my wife (I do this for cleaning tasks a lot). Focus breathing (4in / 4out) can help reset your brain.

Starting Difficulties

It seems ridiculous in context but sometimes to start all I need to do is just say “Fuck It!” really loud and then engage my body. I used to supress anger, and internalise it into self-hatred, now I harness it for frustration at having to do things I hate to do.

The only other thing that might be causing this is that the task is too big – it’s multiple steps, progressive task chunking is a lot better.

This guide by @jessejanderson on Twitter (Website: jessejanderson.com & book coming soon* – Refocus) is also incredible for breaking down massive tasks – highly recommend a follow as there are a lot of resources offered that have been super useful to help me explain things.

Task Overload

If my to-do list was too long in the past, and I was still dealing with perfectionism issues – It never got started. I would look at the complete list and just error out, my brain would stop working it was too daunting to get started. Then someone suggested that I just make my to do list one item. Any one item I needed to do, and then build on that. So I did, now I don’t get upset when I don’t do everything, my task list has some stuff that has been on it weeks, but I can deal with it.

No accountability

If you have a lack of trust in yourself, which is a common thing in late identified neurodivergent people as a trend, it can be hard to keep to internally motivated deadlines or to work by yourself. There are many ways to create accountability – either find a friend who can hold you accountable while also understanding you. Start a group in your time zone (I did this personally) where you list what you did the day before – if you failed what got in your way, and what you are going to do today.

The SORCERY OF BODY DOUBLING

Body doubling is literally just having another person in the room with you while you do things – want to know an incredible hack I just learned recently – they don’t actually need to be there in person! You can do this over zoom with a friend but there is also a free service (3x a week) that connects people to do this together called ‘FocusMate‘ – I have not used it personally but I know other people who have. All the benefits of an office with none of the noise.

Organising my life

MoleskineJourney – this is like a bullet journal with habits, it’s great for routines and tasks, events, reminders – it’s really easily customisable. I paid for it for a full year and at the time it was $24.99 NZD (which is roughly 0.70c to each US dollar). I have tried a lot of tools but this one I really like personally. I can’t use bullet journals because I hate my handwriting and it hurts. It syncs with google calendar which is also something I use. It’s available as an iOS, Android, and web application which means I can access it anywhere. It has some usability bugs, but I am ok with it.

My routine stopped working – I can’t make it interesting

Ok so the biggest hack I have for this because I absolutely need routine is to randomise the routine. Do it in a different order each day if you need to or every few days, but keep the same tasks on it. Some I still group together (like brushing my teeth and having a shower). This also applies for kids, if you can find someway to make the tasks interesting by setting timers to try and achieve stuff and doing things in a different order it can make getting up more creative and engaging. I try and include a ‘fun’ task that includes using my strengths – for me my biggest strength is that I love to learn – so I start each day by reading a few pages of a new book in my routine.

Communication Tips for NTs

I have seen a couple of requests for what I do for communication issues with neurotypical people. I had a book recommended to me by someone I have always admired as a researcher – Dare To Lead by Brené Brown – it’s aimed at leadership but it has so many amazing tips for general communication strategies – it also has a ton of stuff that I absolutely love for cultivating trust such as the BRAVING technique which can be used to develop trust in yourself again.

Other useful apps

BalanceApp – currently has a free year (remember to cancel as soon as you subscribe in case you don’t use it). This has amazing standalone breathing graphics for the four main breathing techniques. I use it every day – I also use it for meditation which I don’t recommend people do without understanding the relationship between meditation and trauma. So maybe avoid that feature unless you’ve got a good understanding. I spent 3 months trapped in permanent hypervigilance due to breaking compartmentalisation from meditating. I had to revisit all my mistakes on a 24/7 loop. I am planning to do a blog on meditation soon.

Forest App -one I like for timing – it’s useful for doing a Pomodoro timer which can work incredibly well for helping you manage your time. The basic idea being that you do 25 mins of work to 5 minutes of unrelated stuff. You can adjust up or down depending on your attention span.

Chaos Mind – AKA Rumination

When stuck in a negative thinking rut I used to be utterly powerless. Tackling perfectionism as I talked about earlier and stimulating my vagus nerve are my secret weapons against this one part of my existence that was absolute torture for most of my life.

Here are the tools I use for this:

  • Deep Breathing: When you enter a fight/flight mode your brain tries to conserve energy – doing so actually cuts off oxygen supply used for higher order functions in the brain which give us the ability to reason well. Below are a number of methods to help aid you in this – use whichever one works best for you. There are a number of free apps that do this on phones/tablets too.

Box Breathing:

4-7-8 Technique – lung capacity needs to be good here:

Equal:


  • Activate your vagus nerve: I have written about this as it’s one of the most promising new areas of mental health science in the last few years. The vagus nerve is located in your parasympathetic nervous system which modulates the flight/fight response. Here are some easy ways to activate it:
    • Cold Water – run your hands under a cold tap, or fill a sink and run your hand through the water for about two minutes. Alternatively – take a 30 second cold shower if you can handle it (I make the last 30 seconds of my showers cold each time).
    • Singing – either in the shower, or somewhere where you wont cause more stress by annoying lockdown bubble mates if you can. There’s a reason that a lot of us sing in the car alone or with people we trust – it’s actually incredibly good for us.
    • Conversation with a friend – Yep, it can be as simple as talking to a friend – it does need to be vocal in order to activate the nerve – and I’d try and think of good non-stressful topics to talk about during the conversation if you can avoid it.
    • Body Tapping on a Full Breath: Basically take a deep breath in – hold it and tap your body all over – the vagus nerve is attached to so many systems including our gut/kidneys/bladder – a video on how to do this is here:

  • Listening to music – Music is incredible – there’s a significant amount of positive benefits to listening to music. Honestly throw on some music, listen to the lyrics, really focus on the different layers and how they are combined to enhance your focus. Try and identify each instrument alone through focus, and then think about how brilliant it is how these each combine.
  • Write your thoughts down: The reason we have them rattle around in our heads so much is that we do not process them properly – one good method that has worked for me (and actually helps me get out of having Autistic meltdowns) is to write down the things that are upsetting you. There are a number of ways to do this – I just write down my chain of thoughts as they come – I always try and end my writing on a positive note for my private stuff.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Family

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Family – A complicated part of life

When I did this last time I said thanks to my late Dad. I want to pay tribute to another person today, I want to focus on the good stuff, because there was a lot of conflict due to circumstances.

To my brother

I know we don’t talk as often as we should but there’s a lot I have to thank you for, life was pretty tough for us growing up and I often felt like I had to compete with you, because you were so much better than me academically – this created a lot of hidden resentment from me, and it helped to know you didn’t feel like we were competing when I talked about this with you.

There’s a lot you did for me without realising it – my life was near constant chaos, at school, at home, with friends. I had people who were always making me doubt myself. You never did that to me. You never thought I was dumb like other people – you also knew what mistakes I would make before I made them and tried to cushion the blow.

We fought a lot as kids – nearly every day. I understand a lot of this was pent up anger from the constant barrage of bullying, and sensory and emotional pain that I endured through a day. It eventually just stopped at a certain point but I am glad you never took it to mean I hated you.

Thanks for standing up to so many adults in my life who abused me. I was too timid to fight back – I unfortunately internalised a lot of what they said to me. You were defiant toward the ones who really tried to hurt me. When all other adults were unreliable, you were there to protect me – I’m sorry you had to be this person too.

There’s a number of key things you did for me that you might not have realised the significance of but they changed the course of my life. When you told me to read Ender’s Game/Speaker for the Dead I was ready to give up on people, those books allowed me to have compassion for people who I assumed were awful, and made me look deeper than the surface level – it allowed me to challenge my world view, and appreciate that most things exist in grey. I was able to grow out of the bitter person I had become in my late teens to someone who thought they could love again.

You introduced me to a lot of your friends when I didn’t have any, especially when I just became an adult. This made me feel included for the first time in a social setting – I went on to make other friends from this experience, but you pushed me out the door to actually try and socialise. I had a lot to work on mentally, but was given the room to grow because of this action.

You’ve introduced me to a lot of music and helped grow my love of music – I have found so many awesome bands thanks to you. The National are still my favourite – and I’d not have discovered them without you (well maybe until much later – no way to prove this). I saw them many times in concert and love all their music – a rare feat to like everything a band has produced. They are just one of many – but when we were younger, you helped me to find all the music I liked.

Anytime I got down and you heard about it you reached out to make sure I was ok, even if you didn’t know what to say, you just made it known you are there. I know it’s hard having a brother who has a lot of issues, and I may have focused on my own life a little too much when we talked, but it’s because I knew you wanted to listen, most other people would just ignore me, I know I should spend more time asking about your life too.

You have an incredible family, and you are an excellent Dad. You want the best for them, and I can see how much you love them by the way you talk about them to me when we talk. I am really glad you found your wife, and I am happy that you have a life together that is different from what we grew up around – everyone should have that.

Thanks for never doubting me – thanks for getting past my many errors in life, and I am sorry if I hurt you last year when I finally decided life was too much. I have answers now – I am truly happy. I want to be the person you always believed I could be – often when no one else did, even me.

I miss you heaps, COVID-19 sucks, as does a 3 hour flight, and an international border to cross. I am glad you share so much of your family’s life with us regularly, though I don’t feel like I can add much to the conversation, I always appreciate seeing it.

Thank you for everything – it felt like often it was just us vs the world, we had the adults in our life constantly fail us (often without meaning to), and having one person I could count on to actually show up meant I survived longer than I could have without this support.

Love from your brother,

Rory

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Favourite ADHD Charity

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There is only one I can vouch for personally…

I am a huge fan of CHADD.org – they provide a lot of reliable well sourced information for ADHDers. They do a lot of great work, and provide a ton of great resources for people who are new to ADHD.

Hopefully one day we will have our own ADHD led organisation like the ‘Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)’ but currently that does not exist.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Fidgets and Stims

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Quick Note: I am back – I had a lot to deal with this past week. I just submitted a media grant proposal for a short web series on the mental distress caused by the education system to ADHD and/or Autistic people. I don’t know where I will hear back, but I put a lot of effort into it and I am pretty happy with what I did, even if it doesn’t succeed – I might pursue it personally as a project to use so many of the skills I have built up over the years.

Fidgets and Stims

I basically shake my leg constantly. This is one of my most reliable releases of energy, that doesn’t seem to annoy people. Leggy boy has been there for me in lots of stressful times.

I don’t have any fidget toys or cubes – I just use whatever I have around me. If I don’t have anything around me I tend to use unhealthy stuff. Some common unhealthy stims:

  • sucking my cheeks
  • lightly biting my lips or cheeks
  • biting my nails
  • pulling hairs on my arms/legs

The single biggest stim that I use is actually typing. I have a mechanical keyboard that is super clicky and it provides a lot of the tactile feedback I need. I also like the haptic feedback they added on digital devices – so I would say that typing is my most common and most used stim – it’s a stim that probably ended up saving my life due to the fact I ended up learning.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Awareness Month – Sensory Seeking/Aversion

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Sensory Seeking

Sight

Sensory seek the hell out of anything aesthetically pleasing. I love nature for this. I love patterns. I am a person who loves symmetry and repetition.

Mouth/Taste

Ok I have a few things I do that are super odd. I am Autistic also. I have extreme sensitivity to texture and taste…

But my ADHD side loves hot sauce – I basically bath food in it whenever I can, most things just taste like burning. I have come to love the tang of certain flavours also.

Auditory

I have been a huge fan of audio stimming. Most of the stuff I like is considered “Dance Music” of some sort. I love a good bass line especially, but like some piano and synth stuff also. My playlist for this type of stimming can be found here:

Touch

I like fine sand. It’s small and soft and sensory heaven and it gets everywhere. I like plush fabrics. I like the sensation of these things.

Smell

I like things that smell good – random things I can think of sandalwood, lime, lemon, watermelon.

Sensory Aversion

Sight

Bright light! Bright light! I am a gremlin like Gizmo. I have a ton of rules – and I too should not be fed after midnight.

Mouth

Noodles, like most noodles. I hate thick ones especially. I dislike all seafood. I am not a huge fan of anything that is rubbery basically.

Auditory

Jazz music or anything with a lot of notes in the high treble range as a rule. That makes my ears bleed. Same with most metal music, it’s just noise to me (I know it is not just noise). Any spoon hitting a cup, people eating with their mouths open, people slurping, harsh sounds in words.

Touch

I don’t like beach sand. It’s coarse and rough and irritating and it gets everywhere. I hate the feeling of chalk, and I hate how it feels when you use it on a blackboard. I hate light touch, I hate clothing tags. I hate a lot of fabrics – especially polyester. I hate satin too.

Smell

Anything that smells bad, or just has a powerful scent I hate smelling. I love BBQ sauce, but if it’s left in a bowl downstairs and I am upstairs the smell irritates me so badly that I force myself to do the dishes.

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts:

ADHD Acceptance Month – Favourite ADHD Owned Business

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This is going to be really short – I have had some very significant bad news related to my immediate family. I will endeavour to keep blogging for the next few weeks but I am also going to respect that I should take time out. I want to role model healthy ADHD limits and boundaries too.

The Two I Can Think of Offhand

The Black Girl Lost Keys Store

Fidget toys, books, mystery boxes, magnets, stickers, tshirts and more! What else could you want?!

FluffmallowCo

Enamel pins, cute stuff, stickers and more! Run by the incredible @ScribblingOn

Daily blog challenge

October is here usually known as ‘ADHD Awareness Month’ – but IMO we ADHDers deserve more than that – we deserve acceptance. We need to be listened to, we need realistic accommodations, and help. We need to start moving toward ADHD Pride Month. People should be able to feel proud of being ADHDers, because the alternative is shame.

For 31 days I will be writing every day on being an ADHDer using this list of prompts: